The party may be canceled this year, but the HOPE we can bring each other has no bounds.
It's almost over, 45 days until 2020 comes to an end, but just because the year digits are changing doesn't mean our troubles are at an end.
I plan on spending the rest of this year counting my blessings.
It never gets old. Whenever you think life has you at your worse, there is always someone out there struggling more. It's not about struggles, and I don't plan on remembering 2020 as just that year the pandemic hit and ruined the world as I knew it.
Instead, I'm making a list, each day of the good things because this is the year my oldest became an adult, this is the year my youngest became a teenager. This is the year we grew closer as a family and got a new family car.
We can't control life, but we can control the way we remember it.
This past weekend, I took off on a retreat with best friend, we'd both have seen each other at our lows and been there to see ourselves rise. That's what 2020 is. A valley. And these next 45 days, or however many days it takes, I'm climbing to the top.
This the overlook near World's End in Pennsylvania. As the last night of our retreat ended, we stood and watched the sunset. Looking up at the stars, we told God what we needed - not what we wanted- and thanked him for the one best thing he did for us in 2020.
If you know God, you know you can't put a time limit on making something happen. It's His timing, not ours.
So count your blessings, not the days, and find comfort in this time.
Many of us have had to shift our daily lives to establish a
new norm of getting work done at home while caring for our kids. This can be
especially rough for the parents who have depended on daycares and other
caregivers to care for their children while they have gone to work.
But how do you get any work done when daycare isn't
an option or you have other children at home who aren't in school?
While in the past, you might have gone into your workplace to do your
job. Now, you may have been given the opportunity to do what you can
in your profession from home. The hardest part is trying to get any work done
while ensuring the care of your family.
They are home. You are at home.
How do you get anything done?
I've been working from home off and on for almost two decades. Raising my kids was my first priority, and so I've stayed at home and only worked outside of the house during times of necessity. Not everyone has that luxury, and by doing so, our family has had to make some sacrifices--most of them the cost of convenience or choosing between wants and needs.
Depending on the work you do, these following tips
might be helpful:
1.
Work when the kids are sleeping. They
told me when I had my first child to sleep when my baby slept. And if you have
a newborn that cries all night, they'd be right. However, when my second baby
came, I learned to get things done ins shifts. The kind where the babies slept
and mom went to business. Growing up on a farm gave me the advantage of being a
morning person. I get up two hours before my kids, it's my time to prepare for
the day, and get something things done. And at night, the same thing happens.
Kids in bed, mom goes to work for a few hours. Afternoon nap times? Take a siesta,
too. A small one, then get up and take care of a few things. If your job is
flexible, this might help you make some progress.
2. Establish a routine at home just as you would in your office at work. Know you have a certain task that needs to be done each day or by the end of the week? Assign days for a certain task, just like you might already for your housework or taking out the trash. Have set times during the day where you go back and forth between focusing on work-related tasks and kid-related activities. It will take a little time to establish this new routine, but the key is to be consistent in getting everyone in the house on board.
3.
Trade off with your partner. Being at
home 24/7 and taking care of kids, along with other responsibilities, can get
overwhelming. Now is the best time to have each other's back and work as a unit
to care for the family you've created. Compromises will have to be made, and
one partner may have to take on tasks they usually haven't done before to balance
the load of adjusting to working from home. Make a schedule of trading off who
will care for the kids while the other works. Who will make supper or take turns
with house chores? It's okay to assign a few new age-appropriate duties to your
kids. They are part of your family, assigning tasks helps establish that you
all are in this together, working together, and strengthens your family.
4.
Acknowledge limitations. Some jobs just can't be done at home;
adjustments and modifications may need to be made. That's okay. You were trying
to think of a better, more productive way to accomplish it anyway, weren't you?
Focus on what you can do when you can do it. And how to achieve it another way that will meet others' needs in the time they need it. It's not easy, I know,
but you can do it. Brainstorm, talk to your boss, your friends in similar
situations and collaboration. Which
leads to…
5.
Don't try to do too much all at one time.
There is this theory of threes. Pick the main three things you need to get done
for the day, both work-wise and home-wise, and focus on those. Take each day
one at a time. You can fill out what the next day needs but try not to go over
three. You don't want your list to run rapid on you and drown you in the little
things that pop in your head that aren't as important as fulfilling your work's
expectations and caring for your kids.
6.
Have a designated workspace. I don't know
about you, but I work best when I work in a controlled environment. When the
kids were in school I could work at a desk in the corner of our family room.
It was quiet. More so, it' was like switching shoes and going from mom mode to work
mode. Now that the kids are home more often, I have moved into a separate,
closed-off space in our home. I share it with husband, and we take turns using it
as needed. Without this space, I get too distracted by what is going on inside
my home with my kids than focusing on the project on hand. Some people can work
anywhere and block out everything around them. I am not one of them. I have
learned over the years I need a desk; I need a space, and I need to be away
from the temptation of watching other people and having the chances of someone interrupting
me. Multitasking isn't always best in specific jobs.
You can see my old workspace here.
I hope it will help
inspire you when setting up your own space.
It is possible to work at home and get things done with the
kids around you. I've been doing it for almost two decades. Everyone is different,
and you just have to find what works best for you and your family.
I hope these tips have helped or at least brought you the encouragement
you needed to keep up morale in your home.
You can do this!
I'd love to hear some ways you've been able to
balance your day between work and kids. Please post them below in the comments.
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